Introverts

Sitting beside my window in this rainy evening put my mind onto certain things..small things,things which I have overlooked in the recent past,'coz of all the hectic course of my life..thinking on these lines,I recollect a conversation with one of my friend Sreyasi Sengupta last night..somewhere we made a point on being an Introvert, and being one myself..I thought whether the so called 'Extrovert' society has a little too much misconception about us.

The problem is that labeling someone as an Introvert is a very shallow assessment, full of common misconceptions. It’s more complex than that.According to science we 'Introverts' are a minority with only 25 percent people in our club.(I love to use the word club).But since we are a minority,this leads to a lot of misunderstandings, since society doesn’t have very much experience with our people.

So here are a few common misconceptions about Introverts .A list I put this list together myself:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

BULL SHIT..WE ARE HAPPY WITH WHO WE ARE..WE DON'T GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT US. :)

It can be terribly destructive for an Introvert to deny themselves in order to get along in an Extrovert-Dominant World. Like other minorities, Introverts can end up hating themselves and others because of the differences.
If you are an Introvert,I would suggest you to feel proud of what you are, and think to yourself, what good would it do, to constantly blabber about everywhere and 'Extroverts' need to recognize and respect us, as we need to respect ourselves.


PS: DEDICATED TO SREYASI, AND ALL THE OTHERS WHO SHARE THE SAME FEELING AS ME..HAPPY LIVING.